Disability Etiquette and Hospitality
These tips have been compiled using resources from:
National Partnership on Disability / Eastern Paralyzed Veterans Administration / National Pastoral Life Center / Diocese of Wichita / Diocese of Boston / Archdiocese of Philadelphia / Liberty Resources, Inc.
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It is important to remember that sometimes the disability isn’t obvious, as in the case of some intellectual/developmental disabilities or mental illnesses. If you observe behavior that you don’t understand, it is good to remain aware for possible need of assistance and be nonjudgmental.
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- Ask about preferred location for seating.
- Don’t push or touch a person’s wheelchair without their permission.
- Don’t assume people with canes or crutches prefer to use a ramp over stairs.
- Don’t grab people’s arms who use canes/crutches. They need their arms to balance themselves.
- Speak to the person in the wheelchair and not to the person that may be accompanying them.
- Be eye level with person in wheel chair when talking to them.
- Always ask before offering help. Don’t be offended if the person says no.
- Never pet anyone on the head.
- A person with respiratory or heart condition may have difficulty walking long distances. Offer a place to rest before ushering to seat.
Blindness / Partially Sighted
- Prearrange tour of church with audio description.
- Identify yourself and your role (I am the greeter/usher).
- Ask person “Would you like assistance?” Offer your arm. Describe the scene.
- Walk on the opposite side of a guide dog.
- Don’t touch person’s cane or guide dog.
- Give verbal cues – “there is a step coming up…”
- Give verbal cues that are specific (e.g. Don’t say “watch out”, say “there is a trash can in front of you…”)
- Guide an individual’s hand to a banister or the back of a chair to help direct him to a stairway or seat.
- Inform person who is blind and attends church regularly of any physical changes.
- Offer large-print or brailled bulletins and large-print prayer books and hymnals.
- Establish before Mass if person would like accommodations for Communion (e.g. Eucharistic Minister to come to them, sighted guide).
Deaf / Hard of Hearing
- Using someone who knows sign-language is not an adequate replacement for an interpreter.
- Does the individual prefer to use sign language, writing, gesturing, speaking or a combination of all to communicate.
- To get the attention of a person who is deaf/HOH you can tap them on their shoulder, wave you hand or flicker the lights.
- Do not shout to a person who is wearing a hearing aid. Your shouting will be more distorted. Move closer to the individual.
- Face person directly when speaking and do not obscure your mouth when communicating.
- When using a sign-language interpreter, look directly at the person who is Deaf, and maintain eye contact. Talk directly to the person who is Deaf.
- Background noises are a problem for people who are HOH. May need to turn off radios and air conditioners.
- Don’t be afraid of interaction. There is nothing worse than being left out and ignored.
- Offer assisted listening devices if available; have a note pad and pen available.
- Ask person to repeat themselves if you can’t understand.
- Wait for the person to finish then restate to be sure you understand.
- Suggest another way of facilitating communication.
- Don’t nod to a person you can’t understand.
- Don’t interrupt or finish a person’s sentence.
- Greet person normally with age appropriate language. Don’t baby talk.
- Repeat information about yourself if necessary.
- Rephrase, rather than repeat, sentences that the person doesn’t understand.
- Treat people equally.
- Even if person doesn’t read, offer reading materials.
- Behavioral Needs
- Create a space parishioners can go to in order to de-escalate challenging behaviors.
- Don’t force conversation.
- Don’t argue. Wait for rational moments.
- Ask how you can help, find out if there is a support person who can be sent for.
- Ask what will make him/her most comfortable and respect his/her needs to the maximum extent possible.
- Remember that these behaviors are just as stressful for parents and family members. Engage family in conversations related to best strategies and natural supports at a time and manor that conveys empathy and understanding.
- Be sure to greet.
- Give your name and ask theirs but respect boundaries.
- Offer to sit with or near but respect wishes to be alone.
- Gestures often convey acceptance. Sit next to person with disability but respect boundaries.
- If a person has a seizure, you cannot do anything to stop it. Be sure head is protected.
- As an usher or greeter, please respect person’s needs and request whenever possible.
- Don’t make decisions for people with disabilities about what they can or can’t do.
- A person who may appear drunk or sick may have a disability or medical emergency.
- Ask a person with a disability to take up the offertory gifts or serve in other roles of ministry.
- Ask a person with a disability to be an usher.